Why do some people create a Tinder profile while still married — even if they don’t plan to use it?

I didn’t create that Tinder profile to cheat.


I created it… because I felt invisible.


My partner and I were still in the same house. Still doing the usual things.

But something between us had gone quiet — and I started carrying the emotional load alone.


I stopped sharing my feelings because they either went unheard or led to conflict.

I stopped dressing up because there was no one noticing.

I stopped asking for intimacy because I didn’t want to feel rejected again.


But deep down, I just wanted to know I still mattered.

That someone, somewhere, still saw me.


Tinder wasn’t about meeting someone else.

It was about feeling visible again — even briefly — in a space where I didn’t have to be perfect.


Maybe that makes me weak. Maybe that makes me selfish.


But I think emotional loneliness can ache even louder than physical loneliness.


People don’t always know how to ask for closeness when they feel unseen.

Sometimes they just… drift toward places where they hope someone might notice they exist.


If you’ve ever done something small that carried a big, quiet emotional ache behind it —

I see you.

You’re not alone here.

 

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